|When your child:|
|USES FOUL LANGUAGE||HAS FEARS||RUNS AWAY|
|It may mean your child:|
|Doesn’t know any better.||Has a feeling of strangeness, such as encountering something for the first time.||Wants to be independent or to explore.|
|Is imitating someone.||Needs the closeness of an important adult and wants to know where the person is.||Feels bored.
Needs privacy and time to be alone.
|Wants attention or to let off steam.||Has had a previous painful experience.||Is rebelling.|
|Feels unwanted and is trying to punish you for not showing love.|
|So do not:|
|Show embarrassment or shock.||Shame or threaten your child.||Make a scene.|
|Get excited, scold or punish your child.||Make your child go toward the thing that is feared.||Cry or make a fuss over your child.|
|Overemphasize the incident.||Punish or tie your child up.|
|Remove your child’s privileges.|
|Unduly restrict your child.|
|You might try:|
|Ignoring your child.||Reassuring and comforting your child.||Letting your child know you love her and that she was missed.|
|Observing when foul language is used.||Telling or showing your child where the important adult is.||Taking safety precautions with the environment so your child sees a controlled environment rather than you as a jailer or partner in a runaway game.|
|Offering a substitute for the word.||Observing the situations that frighten your child.||Reassuring your child.|
|Setting up safe ways and places for the child to get away and be alone.|
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